As you start opening up to each other again, you'll build your emotional connection back up. If stress is killing your libido and resulting in a near sexless marriage, exercise is a natural anxiety buster that can help you get back in the mood. Plus, bringing your partner along makes it a bonding experience while you work toward a shared goal, adds Marter. And the icing on the cake?
Watching each other power through a sweat session will likely boost your own body confidence, and help you see each other in a new sexy, sweaty light, she says. Foreplay warms the body up for sex, so skipping it can make penetration painful, especially for women.
If that becomes a trend, a woman can get "anticipatory anxiety" over sex as she braces herself for pain, says Thomas. Plus, if either of you is feeling anxious—over sex or anything else—it's hard to get in the mood. Make sure you're both in the right headspace before getting frisky, suggests Wyatt Fisher, PsyD, a marriage counselor in Colorado.
He recommends taking a bath together or giving each other a massage. If sex is painful, it's natural to shy away from intimacy. Focusing on foreplay is a start, but try adding lubrication to reduce any friction too, says Thomas. A woman-on-top position can also help the partner in pain control the pace and adjust if there's pain. Sex is both physical and emotional, and it's common for couples to have different definitions of what that should look like. One partner might be concentrated on physical gratification, while the other is focused on emotional intimacy.
Don't let the word therapy scare you. Couples counseling can be a really positive experience where you build on your strengths. Even if you think you know what core issues are driving the distance between you, there might be more to the story, adds Marter. A counselor can help you get to the roots of the problem and find solutions to work through them.
Varma points out that many people end up slowly easing into this change and find it becomes normal. Varma says. Whereas others just don't value sex that much, which is also okay. A lot of it is based on communication and a willingness to be open with your needs. Varma suggests finding a time to speak when both partners are not feeling angry, tired, or stressed. Read: skip the late-night pillow talk. Sending texts that are playful, and flirtatious can help plant the seeds of seduction, she says.
You can also show your partner that you care by spending time with them, or doing things that might make their day easier. There are plenty of reasons for not having sex, ranging from cultural to health-related, or simply personal preference.
According to Dr. Varma, the reality is that people sometimes have different narratives in their heads. Please try again.
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